Thread: Having trouble reaching orgasm?

I don't really no what my problem is. For the longest time I didnt even no girls could orgasm til one of my bfs got me to ad he was the only one that has done it. I'm with a different boy now and he is all about getting me to but I told him that sometimes I can't cause i get fustrated and mad cause i dobnt think i can and I can't do it at all when having sex. I mean I really love the person Im with now and in all honesty I have never felt the way I do about him with anyone else so maybe that's what has been missing. I dunno. I don't want to disappoint him if I can't orgasm. Any ideas for what I can do? Any ideas on how to have one while having sex?

He might not be doing it right.

PS. He probably doesn't care about your orgasm just his. Most guys are like that. If he doesn't mention it don't stress

In one of the latest issues of Cosmopolitan, they said the way to guarantee an orgasm is to imagine. All females have a "To do" list with what they want to sexually accomplish in their life time. Imagine you are checking off one of them. You can play it out in your mind or include your partner. Stress definitely affects orgasms, so try to relax, and try having your boyfriend give you a massage before. Good luck!

You don't have a problem. Have you ever been able to orgasm by yourself? If not, it's going to be a lot more difficult to climax with your boyfriend because you don't even know what exactly runs you on. Try to not think about orgasming and just enjoy yourself while having sex. If you concentrate on the feelings you may have one just because you're not stressing out.

It's ok. I remember my first orgasm (that happened 2 years after I first had sex AND had already had a child). My husband looked up at me and said "what was that." I guess I made a lot of noise and he didn't know WHAT was going on. I also remember that it took me a while before I actually could orgasm during sex. It may be a while before you actually orgasm on a regular basis. Also remember that women are different than men and we can turn ourselves off within a few seconds. You just haven't found what works for you yet. Give it time and you guys will enjoy sex together.

Only about 25% of women can have an orgasm during intercourse. So if you cant then that is normal. There are things you can do to see if you can like positions but otherwise you will need some time of clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm during intercourse.

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love...asm-guaranteed

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love...Have-an-Orgasm

ask him to rub you with a cloth or your pants, and get harder, omg it is amazing, i love it, orgasm heaven